Posted by Dinah on October 4, 2011, at 11:44:28
In reply to Re: I'm jealous » Dinah, posted by pegasus on October 4, 2011, at 10:41:12
The voice definitely isn't wrong.
We chatted throughout the session on matters of faith and my church attendance, which he's been encouraging for reasons of community. In the last ten minutes or so I casually mentioned that the doctor hadn't called. He idly asked "Oh, what doctor?" and when I didn't respond "You're trying to find a new doctor, right?" I advised him to look at last week's notes, which he did and then he remembered. I told him that my hair stylist generally spoke as if she remembered our last conversation, while I realize that of course she writes a note somewhere on my records. But that I appreciated the effort. And she's paid to do my *hair*.
He was put out because he thinks I'm angry with him for not remembering. He insists he didn't remember because he wasn't really worried. I pointed out that if it was someone he cared about, his granddaughter for example, he'd have at least remembered. He groaned and said there is nothing he can say to fix this. I laughed (in a friendly way, I think) that unless he has a rewind button on life, that there was nothing he could say that would change that he didn't remember. He thinks I'm angry with him. I've searched deep within to see if I can find any traces of anger.
I'm not angry.
I already understand. I'm a bit nicer about it than the pernicious voice, but I understand.
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