Posted by annierose on October 2, 2011, at 17:21:30
In reply to Re: I'm jealous » annierose, posted by Dinah on October 2, 2011, at 0:59:52
My therapist would disagree that you can only care about someone in time slots. I have had this conversation.
"Do you think caring is something you can turn on and off? I am not a machine. Of course I think of you between sessions ...." along those lines.
I think our therapists do smile with us in a delighted way when we sprout our wings and fly solo. And I love when I make her laugh ... which has been a lot as of late. I have created some drama in my life (mostly harmless fun) and I think she is delighting in these stories while keeping me focused on my goals.
But you are right. It is unbalanced caring. Us "lifers" probably get more than our share of some balanced caring on some level. We are not in and out of their lives ... we are a constant visit 2,3 or 4 times a week ... year after year. That builds relationships on both sides. I hope.
When my daughter's school was in the news (for bad news) I never mentioned it in session for the first few sessions. I knew she was safe and this was much to do about nothing. Finally one morning my t mentioned, "Isn't that xxx's school? I have been thinking of her and wondering how she is doing" (knowing she is an anxious child). That's when I have a private smile.
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