Posted by Enigma on October 13, 2010, at 14:53:05
In reply to Re: I am so sad in my marriage what to do » Enigma, posted by Dinah on October 13, 2010, at 13:57:50
> That could be what's going on, but it's far from the only option. Not all men are like you. The difference in individuals makes generalization difficult.
>I believe I listed a bunch of different options, not just what was going on with me and my marriage. Soooooo...
I talked about what many men I knew, and knew about have done as well, from women I know and have known, and from men I've known, not just what I have done (and what happened in my marriage). It's important to see the difference. Well, it's important to me anyway.
I'm a man, and I'm the last person that will come to their defense. Especially if these men did something wrong or immoral, unethical, etc. Many, or all? of my male friends have let me down severely, so there's no love lost between us, and I'm the first person to give away "their" dirty secrets, especially if they are hurting someone, and know they are.
A male perspective is *very* important here, as I think most of the responses were from women. I could better tell you what a guy is thinking than most any woman could, even a therapist. I am quite familiar with all their games, tactics, weaknesses, and so on. Seen them first hand, unfortunately, and most of these people I knew made me sick, and I kept my distance from them as much as I could, but when you're stuck working together, that gets difficult.
I hope I'm wrong, and he is not doing something "bad", it's unfortunately mostly what I've seen in my life, and her story sounds shockingly familiar to many I've heard before where something "bad", was occurring, meaning, something malicious. Just look at the divorce rate. I'm at least 50% accurate. Then there's still all those marriages that continue even though something "bad" has occurred.
I'd like to get some responses from the OP if she ever comes back to read our responses.
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