Posted by Dinah on July 1, 2010, at 10:10:10
In reply to blow out session with my T yesterday, posted by deerock on July 1, 2010, at 9:55:11
> now im confused because we often have sessions, many sessions in the last several months that we worked together that i rage at her and its not productive. and it seems like when i get angry, she becomes defensive and my anger escalates instead of my anger being a catalyst for insight and change. this is very unproductive. i dont know how to get beyond this right now.
Perhaps you need a therapist from a different school of therapy. What you're talking about sounds like something an analyst might feel quite comfortable doing, but a CBT therapist might not. My therapist wouldn't wish to work with me with the dynamics you're describing. But a therapist with a psychoanalytic focus might.
I don't really like the responses you reported. And it doesn't sound as if she's really enthusiastic about continuing therapy with the devaluation and anger directed toward her. That's just my take on it from what you said, and I could be completely wrong.
Could you have a conversation with her, talking about how you believe your anger can be a catalyst for change, and asking her if she's comfortable with therapy on that basis or if she thinks you need to find a therapist who works more with that type of material?
It doesn't mean that her point of view is wrong or that your point of view is wrong. But it might mean that you aren't ideally matched.
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