Posted by workinprogress on December 20, 2009, at 2:07:05
In reply to The plan -- final 2 weeks **may be Trigger**, posted by TherapyGirl on December 19, 2009, at 19:32:03
TG-
It sounds like you two are really trying to give each other some space to be human in a really hard situation. Not ignoring places where you are disappointed (bringing up the connection between disconnection and the new place), but just recognizing that there's no guidebook here and this is HARD stuff. You're both learning. And you're both experiencing a LOT of emotions. I think she was right to say that about the anger. My T reminded me the other day that you can simultaneously love someone AND be angry at them.
And it sounds like you're figuring out what you think will be best. It probably won't be perfect, but it's what feels right to you.
Given all the struggles, from this end it sounds like you two have turned it around quite a bit. I know she's let you down a lot. But I can't help but note that it seems to me that you, like Dinah, do have a lot of trust in your T too (sure she's tested it lately and fallen down and maybe it's less than it used to be- but it still exists even after all that because of the work you've done prior). I could be wrong, but I sense that in your post. And I certainly sense a lot of mutual love, struggle, and humanity.
Hang in there TG, you will get through it. It'll hurt (and does) but you'll make it.
xo
WIP
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