Posted by Dinah on October 10, 2009, at 9:20:30
In reply to Re: Homely then, posted by toetapper on October 10, 2009, at 1:23:48
It was a beautiful post. And it embodies many of the ideas I am trying to address in therapy.
This in particular struck me.
"But what really prompted me to post is how envious I am that your relationship with your T reaches far enough and deep enough to be truthful, even in the face of discomfort to each of you. That, to me, is an expression of love. He is giving you implicit AND explicit invitation to trust him, to believe in him, and your relationship."
It's the thing I remember most about yesterday's session. I know that it was really hard for him not to mutter a reflexive denial. He trusted in our relationship enough to do something that was hard for him, and I trusted it enough to take in something that hurt, even if I at the very same time welcomed it. He made himself vulnerable to me, and that was such a loving thing to do. It might come easy enough to some therapists, but he is not one of those therapists.
Thank you for really understanding that.
poster:Dinah
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