Posted by duds on November 10, 2009, at 10:55:37
In reply to Re: Homely then » seldomseen, posted by Dinah on October 11, 2009, at 9:00:08
Hello...I haven't posted here in quite a while.
I was under the impression that therapists are not supposed to do harm.
I have problems with my appearance and I admit that I tend to exaggerate my 'unattractiveness'. It's hard to love myself and I'm trying. I am making progress. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
I was talking about this with my therapist a while ago and she told me I'm not ugly...she also said realistically I'll never be a supermodel. I laughed about that...it's a ridiculous proposition. We talked a bit about how unrealistic standards of beauty are placed upon women. What you see on TV and in other forms of media is fake. A lot of makeup here, an airbrush there...and presto.
Funny about that...I don't think that 'extremely beautiful' women are attractive. I like real women...and a lot of what I find myself attracted to is how she reacts to and behaves around me.
You know what makes me more attractive instantly? Smiling and laughing. A bit of confidence can go a long way.
In my very humble opinion your therapist should not have said that and seems like a bit of a jerk. It is a therapists job to heal, not to hurt. I dont say this lightlyI know how much appearances matter in the real worldIve been battling acne for years and I have the scars to show for it...and I do need to lose some weight...but I'm done beating myself up over it.
Love yourself. Work with what you have. Treat yourself to some clothes, a hair cutsomething that will make you feel good about yourself. I just got a hair cut and I feel like a million bucks. :) The little things help. Hang in there.