Posted by twilight on September 25, 2009, at 10:58:57
In reply to Need help understanding these tears, posted by Daisym on September 24, 2009, at 1:07:36
Well Daisy, I can empathize with your situation. I think the therapy experience is kind of like house hunting. We don't really know what we want sometimes, but we'll know it when we see it (or in the case of therapy, feel it or get it.)
Our emotions and feelings are very complex but one thing is, we are born fully human into this world and sometimes we don't need to understand so much as just 'be' with those feelings. It's OK to be human and to not be able to figure it all out. And to expect perfection from our T's. Boy, that's a common one even though our rational minds know they are fully human like ourselves.
And I think maybe your T wants to 'fix' the problem (wondering how to figure out what you want from him whereas you not really knowing what exactly that is, yourself). Which probably is frustrating for him, because he feels helpless.
It might just be, that the two of you talk about these feeling for awhile, not with the intent of fixing the problem, but just to get it out there in whatever way it comes out.
Daisy it seems to me you are doing a lot of good work with this T ---- keep pushing yourself forward.
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