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male or female therapist...

Posted by deerock on July 13, 2009, at 13:59:31

i have a female therapist. i am male. i have all kinds of issues with my mom and based on my behavior over the years, it seems like i have issues with women in general.

i have a good relationship with my therapist. however, she is not very directive and sometimes soft spoken. i often realize that i think she is talking nonsense or psychobabble and then sometimes several days later, possibly other times not at all, i realize she is just talking softly and im so high strung its not registering. or she is saying something in an indirect way so as not to come at me head on and set me off and i start to think she is not making sense...only to realize she is making a lot of sense. i wonder how much i have missed because of this, in terms of her attempts to communicate with me.

i often get very upset with her. i have told her she is incompetent, that she is wasting my time and money...all kinds of things.

i am starting to wonder, if my mom/woman issues are getting in the way of my therapy. maybe this is exactly what i need. maybe if someone comes at me head on, it would be even worse. it certainly feels like that is what i need. i raise these issues with her. we talk about them.

im meeting with a man therapist wed for a consult. ive been really angry at my current therapist for what seems like several months now. she wants to work on it. i keep feeling like this anger is preventing us from making progress.

and its dawning on me. a lot of this anger has to do with her being a woman. she lets me get away with things it seems. some of the stuff i have said about how bad a therapist she is, she just takes it.

im just not sure i respect the opinion of a woman (i know this is sad, im not trying to be a tough guy here). and i have been wondering for a long time now if this is holding me back or if its what i need to be facing.




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