Posted by fleeting flutterby on April 9, 2009, at 10:13:56
I've been grappling with this for some time. The therapist I used to see (for about 3 years duration) I felt him to be a kind of father figure/mentor, it seemed to be quite apparent.(he was 20+ years older than me)
However the therapist I'm currently seeing(have seen her about 15 months now)... is female and we are just two years apart in age..... I think I'm struggling to "see" what she is to me....
I always push the idea right out of my head the minute it's there, about her being a mother figure, that just doesn't seem to fit right....(could be we are so close in age and also I've always struggled to bond with my narcissistic mother-- don't think I could trust a mother-figure), then I'll think of her as a sister-figure.... but that causes anxiety, as all of us siblings competed fiercely since love and acceptance was ALWAYS conditional growing up. So then I tell myself to try and connect with her as a friend-- but a therapist isn't supposed to BE a friend...... right?? so I push that idea away too.I'm having trouble with this.... I've been thinking maybe if I could just figure out what she is to me(what kind of connection there is...)-- then...then.... I could perhaps let my guard down more and allow her to take that role..... does that make sense??
so, I was wondering-- what is your T to you? a father figure, brother, uncle... a mother figure, sister, aunt...
and -- Do you think it helps in putting a "role" to them??
flutterby-mandy
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