Posted by Dinah on February 23, 2009, at 11:12:46
In reply to Re: Is There Anyone Here In Love With Their Therapist? » SLS, posted by sassyfrancesca on February 23, 2009, at 10:53:16
> I don't really need therapy (the church issue was over years ago), I go...to be with him....sometimes I just want to sit and just be....
Have you talked to him about this? About the fact that you're paying him to be with him? And how you're angry with him, but he's the only man in your life right now?
I can see lots of room for therapeutic interaction, if you're willing to be honest with him. It would require risk, and a lot of hard work, but you might end up with something far more satisfying than what you have now. I recognize of course that there are probably inherent satisfactions in things as they are now.
But I would wish for so much more for you. Things that will only be possible if you're willing to stir what you have now up a bit.
If you aren't willing to do that, you aren't. I respect that. I do it myself all the time. But one thing my therapist *has* taught me is to be empowered by my decision to do nothing. It *is* a decision to stay right where I am right now. And it's better for my ultimate happiness if I accept that at this moment the benefits outweigh the disadvantages, and that I am choosing to take this path. It makes me feel less helpless.