Posted by fleeting flutterby on February 17, 2009, at 14:34:58
In reply to Re: What if.........., posted by backseatdriver on February 13, 2009, at 11:12:18
> Just wanted to second what Seldom said. I'd be mighty peeved, too. I would definitely wonder if this was a way to say goodbye. I would also wonder if it were a statement of helplessness on his part.<<
flutterby:---- OK, Im back...... sorry it's taken me a bit to answer your reply.
You know something, that last sentence-- "wonder if it were a statement of helplessness on his part"...... this thought came to me also, and brought an internal upset for me. As a child I was left to figure out and deal with my own traumas and was called upon to be my mother's emotional support(of which I often felt was way over my head!) I feel an emotional upset when near others that come across as helpless-- especially those that are in a position of guidance-- like a therapist(and a parent).
> Either way, I think at that moment he was not in control of his countertransference.<<
flutterby:---- Wow! You think that could be??
>> This is negligent. No wonder he managed to push it out of his mind -- it is shameful to fail to control one's responses to a client. Who, after all, is paying for a service that includes not giving up on them (which is a form of abandonment).<<flutterby:--- thank you, you've given me some things to think about.
Maybe I've done the right thing in finding a new therapist-- she is so so NOT like the former one. I think a "confrontational approach"(that my former T. had) spiraled me into my old self-protection mode.... and thus perhaps causing my inner-self to hide and cease progressing. Growing up with an absence of nurturing-- I think a forward direction only happens when nurturing is present-- as then I don't have to be overly absorbed with self-protection.flutterby-mandy
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