Posted by Partlycloudy on December 31, 2008, at 9:10:22
In reply to Eating issues and Therapy. Iodine. cancer., posted by llurpsienoodle on December 31, 2008, at 7:25:59
So sorry to hear of your mum's health problems. From what I've been experiencing with my own immediate family and my in-laws (I call them the out-laws), it's really hard to fight their battles for them. In every shape and form, from being compliant to, well.... being compliant. It's something they just have to do for themselves. Fine for us to express concern that they do just that, not fine to do anything beyond it, unless mental competence is an issue, and then you can probably talk to the doctors too.
Sorry that's not too encouraging. I see a lot of this behavior in my mother, and I just have to turn away. She knows exactly what she's doing in being non-compliant; she's a retired geriatric nurse.
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As to the body and esteem issues, wouldn't it be great if we were to be able to be happy with the bodies we had at any given moment? Wouldn't that just be *heaven*? I can't really imagine it. You could tell your T that you have a hard time relating to him on this issue because of his own fitness and perhaps age - this is something you might actually want to work with separately, with a woman, on. Like a workshop type thing. (My T and former T run such things several times a year and that's what has got me back to yoga before, which is really the ultimate in self-acceptance, also that running around the room Nia class, which was a hoot.)
I'm thinking a female-nurturing-tending and mending kind of environment might feel less threatening than the one on one therapeutic session. I've found them very enriching and good for my head as far as my body image is concerned.
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