Posted by antigua3 on December 22, 2008, at 6:38:45
In reply to Re: well, after reading Daisym post, I ....., posted by rskontos on December 21, 2008, at 19:05:45
I think you made sense rsktontos. It's just I have been trying to follow what you said and wanted to think about it.
You're right. It doesn't matter what it's "called," the fact that it's happening is probably good. And the twisted way I've gotten there--you're right. My pdoc has been working well with the negative transference all along and I haven't realized it.
I guess I should forget about labels, and just go with it. He did point out that my old ways of coping have gone by the wayside and I just have to accept for now that I can't figure it out. It may be too big for me to get my head around it yet and to let it go. That's very hard for me because I like things to be neat and tidy. He has shown me that many of my ways of thinking have been black/white or wrong when interpreted from his side, and he has been right.
So, I'm going to forget the labels and naming for now and just accept what he has to say, although it's very hard for me. I won't spend my time arguing over the defintion of "relationship," because I think he's being ridiculous. We have a relationship, I know that, and for now I just can't seem to grasp what his definition means.
Thank you for taking the time to post. I really, really appreciate it.
Happy Holidays to you!
antigua
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