Posted by Kath on December 2, 2008, at 21:09:14
In reply to Intense Tranference with my T, posted by OneGoodRoad on December 2, 2008, at 19:32:04
> This is my first time posting here. I have been reading the messages for awhile, but was never motivated to write until now.
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> I have been seeing my current T for about 8 years. In the last few years, my feelings of love (= transference) have really grown intense. I cannot stop thinking about her. It feels like an obsession. I recently told her that I googled her and she said that it was an invasion of her privacy and she wanted to know all the things that I found out about her. So I told her.
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> The reality is that I want to know more info about her even still. At the same time, I feel terrible... and am afraid that she will be angry with me. On one hand she wants complete honesty and on the other I think it ticks her off that I have done this.
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> Do I continue to be honest with her?
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> Thanks.~ ~ ~ Jeez - that's a hard situation to be in!! I've never had anything like this happen, but I know lots of people here have, so hopefully you'll get good input.
You know, I find it sort of odd that she'd call it an invasion of privacy. I mean whatever can be found on the internet is the WHOLE WORLD's information! And I find it sort of strange that she wanted you to tell her everything that you found out.
I don't understand WHY??? It seems really weird to me. Any comments anyone else?
It almost seems like she was dealing with HER feelings/issues!!!Ya know, if you do find out more & decide to tell her & if she asks you to tell her what you learned, I'd be tempted to ask her why she wants to know! I also think that if she asks you for details or whatever, I might be tempted to ask her to help you deal with your surfacing feelings - to actually deal with the FEELINGS part of it!!
I hope others give you some input.
Warm thoughts, Kath
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