Posted by llurpsienoodle on November 23, 2008, at 18:52:27
In reply to My T, posted by Nadezda on November 23, 2008, at 17:04:57
Hmmmm,
Well, this is not the first time that you've been telling us these things, so it doesn't seem like this is some capricious interpretation of the latest session gone awry.Is your T's name Yalom, by any chance?
It seems to me that your T (whatever his name) is somewhat narcissistic. He expects that his therapy would magically culminate in some transformative experience (the return to the scene of the crime, as it were), and that you would emerge untarnished, healed, and epiphanical (ha! made THAT word up!). Of course, the way your T imagined this experience, and the way you actually LIVED through it are at odds. He thinks you should be giving yourself more credit. Right. okay. So, in order to communicate that to you, he makes you feel less worthy. hmmm. Does THAT make sense?
I know that you've been thinking about this stuff for a while, but perhaps time to audition a new T? Obviously there's still work to be done ("some fine tuning" as my T would say), and he doesn't seem up to the task. Has he given up on you? That seems terribly unfair, and unhelpful, and GOD! doesn't he KNOW you?
Again, I'm not sure that this is YOUR problem, but rather reflects on his point of view as a therapist.
-Ll
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