Posted by rskontos on November 12, 2008, at 17:43:25
In reply to Re: To quit or fall in love with my therapist, posted by Trotter on November 12, 2008, at 16:18:03
..Dr Thomas Lewis in "A General Theory of Love" says that building dependence on one's therapist is a desirable thing. He says, "A parent who rejects a child's desire to depend raises a fragile person." I think that is the case with me. Maybe to 'fix' things I need to spend years in a dependent and loving relationship with my therapist, to strengthen those neural connections, so they become part of who I am, so that I can connect better with people, and have more fulfilling relationships...
Trotter,I think you answered it yourself. Or at least the words of Dr. Lewis did. I know from my experience that I came from a childhood that produced fragile inside while appearing strong outside. And I don't trust nor do I form attachments. As my sister and I always say, leave a back door to leave from.
And I too think therapy is often sometimes to re-evaluate its necessity. I am still in it though so I am trying to correct the mess my parents made.
Not sure the mess is able to be corrected, but Dr. S thinks so. So we will see, and as they say, "Time will tell".
I think you should go for it.
Good luck and keep us posted.
rsk
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