Posted by sassyfrancesca on November 11, 2008, at 14:40:21
In reply to To quit or fall in love with my therapist, posted by Trotter on November 11, 2008, at 14:10:36
All I can tell you is that I fell in love with my therapist 5 years ago.
It is excruciatingly painful.
How about allowing yourself to fall in love with a woman who is available?
"The closer the attachment and dependency" will make it more difficult for you to leave when you feel you need to. Dependency is one of those bug-a-boos in therapy, which happens but is difficult to handle.
It sounds to me as if you have already figured out why you are avoidant and lack a close reationship. It started with your mother.
If you "surrender" yourself to your therapist....feelings being what they are....what if you do fall in love or have such intense transference, it becomes unbearable?
I belong to a site: A_Most_Heartbreaking_Love (Yahoo group) and it is for people dealing with painful attachment and love feelings for their therapists.
This sounds dangerous, and in the end, you would be the one to be hurt and confused.....in this arena, it is never "just" therapy. There are and would be many, many conflicting feelings and emotions.
Sassy
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