Posted by llurpsienoodle on November 11, 2008, at 9:31:36
In reply to Re: My T makes an inappropriate joke... » llurpsienoodle, posted by lucie lu on November 11, 2008, at 9:04:04
> Hi Llurpsie,
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> This has been a very interesting thread to read. I can understand how unsettling that comment must have been - I think my jaw would just drop if it came out of my T's mouth during a session! Nonetheless, it was very witty and I laughed when I read it. Just to offer another possibility, since he has been trying to get you to explore sensitive areas involving sex, could he be using humor to normalize or de-fuse the topic? Maybe he's offering you a route to addressing the subject in a less threatening manner? Maybe that was part of his most recent therapy plan (to bring a lighter atmosphere into your therapy and discussion of this topic) but he was clumsy at this first effort? Given his own dry sense of humor, that he saw an opportunity that was too irresistible to pass up? So it might have been made in the service of your therapy rather than undermining it, and just not doing so very adeptly. I also think this shows his trust in you and your relationship, which in itself must make you feel good.
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> My intention is not at all to dismiss your understandable reaction or concerns, but to raise another set of possibilities. I think we'll all be interested in the follow-up to your story after you have had a chance to raise it with him! If you feel like sharing it, of course.I think your interpretation is quite valid. I'm so torn between being appalled and being amused that many of the views expressed in this thread seem applicable and useful. So I really appreciate all the feedback I've gotten. It's given me courage, and possibilities for further exploring 1) my relationship with my T, 2) my views about my sexuality, 3) my ability to be open in therapy, 4) ways to best communicate 1,2,3 with my T.
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> And Llurpsie, I read somewhere on this board or another one that you feel you have nothing to contribute. Did you mean to a specific board or to Babble in general? I always read your posts here and enjoy your insightful and caring responses. I think you do contribute a lot. Anyway it is not about how often you post, it's what you say when you post.Aww, LucieLu, you are a sweetie :) I go through periods of self-loathing in which I truly feel like I have nothing to offer this world besides contributing greenhouse gases to my environment. Mostly I have no idea how to respond to a thread- should I offer suggestions? should I help to soothe hurt feelings? should I be blunt? indirect? hmmm. So many possibilities. I'm sure I'm not alone when I write and rewrite and delete and rewrite responses. Then there are other times when I am too impulsive in my responses. Reckless? But often going on a gut feeling is the best response to a difficult situation..
blabbering on---
Thank you again for you post,
-Ll
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