Posted by twinleaf on October 30, 2008, at 17:35:39
In reply to Re: Rupture in therapy (long) » Wittgensteinz, posted by stellabystarlight on October 29, 2008, at 17:39:49
rupture also, Stella. From what you write, it sounds like it's been mended, at least in part. I know what you mean about feeling resentful to have to do so much of the repair work yourself. I hope your relationship goes on getting better, as, when it's good, it seems to be very helpful!
From time to time my analyst and I revisit the disastrous rupture that occurred with my previous analyst. After we have gone through all the high emotions and pain that caused, he sometimes points out that I was doing what I was supposed to do- recreating my troubled relationship with my mother in my therapy. He feels that if my then-analyst had been more aware of that, and had been able to talk it over with me as much as we needed, that no such painful rupture would have occurred. He does believe in the power of shared words and understanding in healing ruptures, and begins doing it the moment he feels things are somehow "off". It seems as though we have a number of very intelligent, intuitive babblers, like you and Witti- others, too- who seem more aware of transferences, countertranferences and ruptures than their therapists are!
If you feel like it. perhaps you will tell us more about what happened.
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