Posted by raisinb on October 26, 2008, at 21:03:59
In reply to Why would he do it?, posted by JoniS on October 26, 2008, at 19:24:15
I am sorry you're going through such a hard time. You sound so overwhelmed.
Yes, talk to your therapist about it. I think they have to balance good boundaries with wanting a close (therapeutic, of course) relationship with us, and knowing that closeness will help us. Maybe he was trying to help you feel less alone; the message just didn't have that effect.
Sometimes I have this weird idea that therapists participate in our fantasies as long as we need those fantasies. Not in an inappropriate way at all--but somehow they know we need to keep certain wishes, hopes, desires, possibilities alive, and they provide the space to do that and a little help. Just because you go just to see him doesn't mean what you're doing isn't therapy.
But I'm sure a conversation about what he intended and its effects would be helpful.
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