Posted by healing928 on October 22, 2008, at 20:01:17
In reply to Pain is part of life, but suffering is a choice???, posted by Kath on October 22, 2008, at 19:40:16
Kath,
What I have learned from my t is amazing. He has taught me things I should have learned from my parents. Acceptence isn't about "getting over feelings" or "being strong." It is accepting the feelings and knowing they will pass. When we think, this shouldn't be happening, it only makes our feelings intensify.
When we resist I think we get to a desperate state. When we think we shouldn't be in this predicament, that it's not fair or wonder, "How could I have been so stupid," we create pain for ourselves. And in doing so, we perpetuate the stuck feelings and that is what creates suffering and doesn't offer any solutions.
Acceptance doesn't happen overnight, and we are all human. Be kind to yourself.
Healing
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