Posted by lucie lu on October 9, 2008, at 15:52:29
In reply to My T made me really cry today, posted by antigua3 on October 8, 2008, at 20:09:32
Antigua,
I agree with what others have said, but this thread has also stirred up some self-reflection as well.
First of all, I had a big lump in my throat when I read the part about your T. I felt physically warmed by your story, as if someone had put an arm around me. But the part about your pdoc, particularly regarding the writing ban (I write too, although you wouldnt know it from many of my posts), made me furious. I am slowly learning to count to ten before criticizing other peoples Ts, even when they are being complained about. Having said that I am not a real fan of tough-love therapy, and his approach seems to me like trying to cure PTSD by returning to the front lines to get shot at. OK, Ill own that criticism.
But I became aware that the thread was generating a lot of feelings within me, love, fury, resentment, a sense of unfairness, and as I began to look at how so many strong reactions were being triggered, I realized how much your situation was resonating within me. And I wont even start with the triangulation.
Anyway, I guess I cant be much help because I obviously am not able to see your pdoc, or your relationship with him, with anything remotely resembling objectivity. If you feel you are making progress with him that couldnt be made any other way, then it must be working, and you are the best judge of that. I do think that his treatment borders on re-traumatization but due to my own bias, I couldnt tell you which side of the border it remains on. And I adore your T.
Hugs,
Lucie
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