Posted by antigua3 on October 11, 2008, at 10:32:06
In reply to Re: More (long) **Trigger**, posted by DAisym on October 10, 2008, at 21:25:38
> "Thats when he made the comment that it was like a rebirth."
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> I thought about you today. I attended a birth and it struck me how much pain the mom was feeling as the baby struggled to get out. Her pain -- not the infant's.So, in your rebirth, is he the midwife and you are giving birth to yourself?
>>YesDoes the pain belong to you - the adult - or you - the infant?
>>The infant, which is clearly what I am w/this process,or the 5 yr old to be more exact> And when all is said and done, will he be happy for you and help you nuture the new you?
>>Yes he will be very happy for me. But I think you hit on the hard part. In my mind, he doesn't want to comfort the child, but buck up the adult. The child is left alone, and he hasn't helped me develop the coping strategies that the young girl needs, because all she has to rely on are the warped coping mechanisms she developed on her own.
> This might make no sense but there it is. It is amazing what pops in your head when you have intense experiences.
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>> No, that's great, thanks alot. And what an amazing experience you must have had. The birth of a child is just indescribable in the joy it can bring.Thank you so much Daisy,
antigua
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