Posted by JayJ on September 20, 2008, at 14:45:55
In reply to Re: What do you tell your DH? » JayJ, posted by Dinah on September 20, 2008, at 10:17:31
This is such a wonderful place for hearing such a wide range of thoughts on these difficult subjects. Even though, as I've said before, it's always going to be different strokes for different folks, it's really helpful to me to hear the kinds of experiences people have had and how they have dealt with them. It helps me feel that I'm not missing on something obvious, and that I am able to see all the options. It is clear we do all have different relationships with our partners and our Ts and we each need to find our own road, but knowing some of the possible routes helps a lot.
When I was young, I always dreamed I would find a guy who would be my soul-mate, who could share everything with me and we would know everything about each other and grow together with a family etc etc. It makes me sad to think about that young me. I know I have difficutly opening up to anyone, mostly because of a tough childhood, and feel that over the years this has really cut off my dream. I don't think I can blame DH (at least not for everything), so again I guess this is why I am with my T. Now I've got a rent-a-soul-mate. It seems a shame in a way that this sort of really cuts my DH off even more. I wonder if you can ever go back, or will my T now always be my ideal for this and DH will never get a look in again. It seems so difficult, because somewhere in my head I know T is just a contract job while DH is there because he wants to be. Oh dear, now I'm crying. Sad.
JayJ
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