Posted by Quintal on September 20, 2008, at 11:14:01
In reply to Re: T thinks I might be shallow » Quintal, posted by rskontos on September 19, 2008, at 16:59:56
Hi rsk,
She's said before that can't see who I am or what I'm like as a person. She is a Phd so she should know what she's talking about. I think we like to believe Ts earn telepathic abilities along with their qualifications, but they're people like everyone else. I'm sure there are people who can understand me, but they're people who have had similar experiences, and she - as a person, hasn't. I'm not too bothered if she thinks I'm shallow. I would be pretty impressed if it were true - my life would be so much easier that way! But this is only the latest in a long line of theories she's had about me. It's like she's trying to nail down some fatal flaw or weakness that would give her more control over me. It doesn't feel like she's really trying to help me. It's hard not to feel insulted by most of the things she comes out with. She does give a bit of reassurance here and there, but it feels more like manipulation than anything else, and it's almost undone by all of the other things she says.
I just want a person there in the room willing to talk about things, and I had that with another T. I think a lot of people in long-term therapy use their Ts are sort of 'safe' friends, and even lovers. You just don't get that on the NHS. I think it might be a bad fit, but not only that - it's the approach and underlying intent that matters to me.
Q
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