Posted by Annierose on August 14, 2008, at 7:33:53
In reply to Losing control - trigger, posted by Daisym on August 14, 2008, at 0:09:37
I think you are right. The younger parts want to be heard and comforted. And your t is telling them, "It is safe here, it will be okay, I won't hurt you." But there is so much shame in those memories ... even though the shame should be dumped squarely on the abuser, not you. Children always blame themselves.
When I feel overwhelmed in therapy (too much is coming to the surface) my t explains that the subconscious knows why I'm there, it knows that this stuff needs to be sorted and explored and ultimately comforted. Although you want to reign the memories back, your therapist wants to hold your hand (metaphorically) and help you move forward so you can enjoy good stuff.
Therapeutically we are both so lucky in that when we are riddled with angst, our next appointment is a day or two away. Tomorrow comes and you can continue working through these memories. You won't scare your t away. He is strong. He can hold onto all your memories. It is okay to lose control.
Can you talk to your younger self and tell her what you wished your mother would have said? and done?
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