Posted by Lucie Lu on June 27, 2008, at 22:59:34
In reply to Re: how do we deal with T separations?, posted by Phillipa on June 27, 2008, at 12:34:13
Phillipa, I still feel so sad over your disappointing experience. Your T sounded sooo unhelpful and I'm so sorry you were dealt a bad card in her. It's completely understandable that you might want to take a time-out now and regroup. But I really believe that you're far from too old to rebuild your life or at least improve those parts that aren't working so well for you. I'm over 55 and believe me, had no stars in my eyes! I have had more Ts over the years than I can count (seriously) but only as counselors or "bandaid" helpers. There were a couple of bad ones and I quit them, like you. I stumbled upon my present T as I looked for help with a short-term crisis. All I can say is that when I met him I just had this feeling about him - his warmth, respect, gentleness, something special - that told me he was a good match for me. I had no idea these relationships existed, truthfully. He opened up all of these growth and healing opportunities to me and I began to see that maybe some lifelong difficulties really could be changed. I doubt that I would have considered this path if I hadn't met someone who was such a good match.
I do hope that, if the desire returns, you get back up on the proverbial horse and look at a few more people. Perhaps it has been different for others here, but perhaps trust your first impressions and maybe that will help you weed out unlikely prospects like Dr Iceberg :)
Love, Lucie
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