Posted by Daisym on June 27, 2008, at 20:26:44
In reply to Re: how do we deal with T separations?, posted by Phillipa on June 27, 2008, at 12:34:13
I think reframing the abandonent into "something else" is a great idea. I still have a hard time with separations but it seems lately that I'm the one MIA - lots of work travel, etc. So we do phone sessions and email, a little.
But when he is gone, he encourages me to write to him as if he were there. That keeps him connected and up to date when he gets back. Other things that work for me - baking, coloring and shoe shopping! (not this year though - not walking well enough to shop.)
Some people have suggested "therapy" movies, like What About Bob, etc. But that has never worked very well for me. Makes me miss him worse. I'd rather read therapy stuff. I guess we each have to find what works for us.
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