Posted by rskontos on June 22, 2008, at 16:26:32
In reply to Re: update on raisin's endless therapist drama *lo, posted by raisinb on June 21, 2008, at 16:11:23
You know raisin, and this is an equally hard thing for me, that trust and therapy well for us to be able to trust a stranger and for it to work relatively well I think is ultimately what the goal of therapy is and should be. Let's face it our childhood's did not give us what we needed. We were damaged and are trying hard to overcome that. So, therapy, whereby we trust a total stranger with vital information and we develop an unlikely relationship that works with all its imperfections helps us learn that other relationships can do the same in that we try it and soon our brain gets this concept. And so we go. And maybe it becomes easier as time goes by and we enter into more and more relationships.
In acceptance of that, we help ourselves to heal slowly over time. When you thin k about it that dream that Nadezda referred -- a lighthouse. Well you can think about a lighthouse. A beacon of light set up to guide sailors into safety. What if they thought suspiciously that the people on dry land did not what them to be safe and fought the light and what it stood for. In a lot of what we do we accept by faith that people we don't know have our own good in their care and concern for us, and we follow that blindly. Like people at restaurants, the police, etc. We can find examples everywhere. So it is goes. In your dream it could be saying that your therapist does have your care at her core and that you just need to try to trust. To take that first step is a first step toward healing.
I am a firm believer that once you make a decision if you feel relief then you have your answer. If you don't then you have your answer. You felt relief, now go forward knowing you did what your heart felt was right. it is enough for now.
rsk
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