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Re: I called, he returned call at my request Nadezda

Posted by Dinah on May 8, 2008, at 19:51:38

In reply to Re: I called, he returned call at my request, posted by Nadezda on May 8, 2008, at 13:05:59

I don't think he gets it at all. That this is difficult for me, or unfair of him.

I'm particularly angry that his reaction mostly consisted of being sorry he told me anything. He surely knows me well enough to know that he doesn't need to say a thing for me to know something's wrong. If he hadn't put up the wall, surely he realized that I'd be able to tell he was upset. And since he did put up the wall, didn't he realize I could see it? And yet his reaction is that the problem was caused by his saying something? Snort. It might have been caused by the way he said it. But there would have been a problem no matter what. Either he's not thinking of it from my point of view, or he doesn't care about my point of view. Because what he really means is "I'm sorry I said anything because this is more annoying to me than if you were upset and didn't know what was going on."

I think he may be wrong about that. I can be equally annoying when he's not totally there, no matter what the reason.

I hope I have the courage to do what I think is best for me. My experience with myself is that I get scared and break down and can't bear the thought of losing him.

I'm a coward.

 

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