Posted by Dinah on April 8, 2008, at 7:44:56
In reply to Re: Something hard to talk about, posted by DAisym on April 7, 2008, at 12:18:04
Well, I suppose I was a bit surprised that this didn't come up when I was wailing and crying and getting hysterical when we were going to move. That can't be easy for a husband. I guess it helps that a close friend of his moved to another city when her therapist (a woman) did. So while he may think it's weird, he doesn't think it's unique to me.
I speak of my therapist a fair amount. X says this, X says that. But I often don't speak of him in glowing terms. I make angry comments about my therapist scratching my name off an appointment space and neglecting to call me. Or cynical statements about my therapist's appreciation of money and stuff. I make clear that he's helpful to my condition, but also clear that I don't admire him nearly as much, for example, as I admire my husband.
I don't think I do this for deception purposes. My feelings about my therapist are very split. And the rational part of me that usually is the one to interact with my husband really doesn't admire my therapist overmuch, and really does admire my husband a great deal.
But as I've become more tolerant of my therapist's flaws, I imagine that might be showing too.
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