Posted by mair on March 26, 2008, at 17:47:36
In reply to Re: Am I being childish? Mad at T for cancelling » mair, posted by Poet on March 26, 2008, at 10:48:11
Now I have my own appointment glitch. Last week my T cancelled my Tues. appointment time because she had to leave town for a family matter. She asked me to come in Wed. am (today) instead. I knew I had a very busy day and I told her that I wasn't certain I could make it. She said that was ok because she didn't intend to fill it otherwise (since she was going to be out of town until right before then) and I should let her know by last night if I decided I couldn't come.
This morning I drove up to her office (about a 40 min. round trip) and her car wasn't there and her door was locked. I waited around for an awkward 15 minutes before I just left.
The whole way back to my office I vascillated between anger at her for forgetting and worry that something bad had happened to her on her drive back home yesterday.
I left a message on her machine after I got to work and she called me about an hour later. Her side of the story was that she remembered that we left it that I would call her if I could come, not if I couldn't. I remember it so chrystally clear otherwise.
This is certainly an honest mistake on someone's part and if this confusion occurred with almost anyone else, I can't see that I would treat it as anything other than a minor inconvenience. MOst of the time, I roll with things pretty well. And in this instance, it didn't really matter. I'm not in awful shape; I wasn't hanging on by a thread until I could see her; I have the opportunity if I want it to see her on Friday. But still it threw me totally off balance for most of the morning, and had I not been too busy to dwell on it more, it probably would've screwed up the rest of my day too.
I'm pretty mystified why this kind of misunderstanding carries so much more weight when it's with a pdoc or T. (I did have something like this happen with my pdoc once; it was my fault and to me, it seemed like a very big deal)
Any thoughts why these very insignificant events (like mine, not Poet's) seem so much more emotionally charged?
Mair
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