Posted by DAisym on January 18, 2008, at 14:50:17
In reply to Re: Bad Session -- it's worse than ever... » Daisym, posted by TherapyGirl on January 18, 2008, at 12:53:01
Two really separate things -
1) I think it is OK to post one response to everyone, especially when you are virtually saying the same thing to all of us. Not that I don't appreciate it - I'm just so aware of how overwhelming it can seem. And I don't want people to not post because they can't handle answering back! Speaking for myself, I'm totally OK with that. I've thought this for awhile, so I'm just picking this time to say it, I hope you don't mind.I've noticed myself that when I'm really depressed I want my therapist to pull out his magic wand (wow how Freudian is that!) and make it all better. But sometimes when he asks me to tell him exactly how I feel - how bleak and how dark and to use metaphors to really paint him the picture, I feel better. He can add to it and usually does, but he also makes all these comforting sounds and shakes his head and kind of leaves room for me to just feel bad. And THEN we move gently to discussions of how to get out of this.
I've noticed when he doesn't do that first, I get upset with him. I want to say things like, "do you think I don't know that?" OR "F-exercise! I can barely get dressed and go to work." He takes it all very well, btw. Someone pointed out recently to me how nondefensive he is, which I guess I haven't really appreciated before.
So maybe writing down exactly what you want your therapist to know -to really know - might help.
I hope the phone conversation went well.
Daisy
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