Posted by muffled on January 17, 2008, at 21:27:20
In reply to Bad Session -- it's worse than ever..., posted by TherapyGirl on January 17, 2008, at 20:26:27
> So tonight we argued for the small portion of the session where we actually spoke. Then we sat in silence.
*I wonder if your T is frustrated and is unsure what to do? Does she consult with other T's when she feels stuck with a client? Mt T meets 1x/mo with a group of other T's to talk bout stuff.
> I hate this and I feel so hopeless. She tries to tell me that my perception of things is distorted and that I'm following "old patterns." But it all sounds like criticism to me and I just can't take it right now. I don't know what would make it better, but I know this makes it worse.*So, maybe you just want comfort and affirmation that you feel bad? Maybe you just want to feel she understands? I know sometimes thats all I want.
> Maybe I should just stop going. I don't think my life is going to get better than this.
*I think there can be improvement. Your in a bad place right now, but things can get better. I think you and your T need to brainstorm an decide what might feel most helpful to you at this time.
Sometimes its just putting one foot in front of the other and getting stuff done. Sometimes it helps to help others. Isolating definately is not good.
Will your T walk with you on a nice day?
Just walk and be together. Maybe sit somewhere with a view and look out at it and talk some. Tell her you just want some understanding. You do not want to fight.(iF thats what you want....)
Maybe try and get some concrete suggestions, a list, that you can mindlessly follow and DO. I did that awhile back. My T wrote some stuff, amnd I just kept referring back and 'doing'. Made soup, walked, cleaned fridge...etc.
Sorry you in the pit :-(
I'll throw you down some matches, look on the wall, you'll see my name there. I scratched it in the wall last time I fell in. But I am out right now. Its good to be out. You'll find the way out too.
(((TG)))
M
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