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Re: t said the F word possible trigger ? » llurpsienoodle

Posted by Dinah on December 13, 2007, at 19:48:14

In reply to t said the F word possible trigger ?, posted by llurpsienoodle on December 13, 2007, at 18:44:38

I'm thinking lovelorn has a point. It might all boil down to different definitions of forgiveness. I feel no huge obligations to others to forgive them for what they knowingly or recklessly did. Most particularly when they haven't asked for forgiveness with the three R's. Taking responsibilty, expressing remorse, and repairing what can be repaired (or taking steps so that no further damage is done).

I feel no obligation to others for that. I don't need to let people be a part of my life, tell them that what they did was ok, or that I still love them, or that I will ever forget what they've done.

I feel no obligation to them. I feel some obligation to myself to... Darn, this is hard to express. Not to let go of the anger exactly. Not to come to peace exactly. But maybe to not be so angry that I can't live my life? I feel some obligation to myself to live the best life I can live, and to experience what joy I can experience, and to do what I can to make the world a bit better than it might have been without me, in whatever small way.

It's not quite forgiveness in the accepted sense of the word, but it seems to fit some of the definitions lovelorn put forth?

 

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