Posted by beautymarked on December 10, 2007, at 23:45:44
In reply to Mutal attraction or just treatment plan, posted by john79 on December 7, 2007, at 16:22:21
I'm going to agree with star008 here. I wish I had found your post earlier so I could've contributed earlier. I hope I don't miss anything.
If you look a page back or at the top of this page, you'll find my and estrellita's stories, which I think you will be able to relate to. Right now, I'm feeling much more apathetic about my T. The time has allowed me to view everything in a much more objective light (which I would try to before, but the subjective feelings just overtook everything else). I realize now that everything I tried to read into--everything that wasn't there, all those silences, his eyes, his small disclosures really were just representative of his inexperience. Experienced Ts know from seeing so many patients just what might influence a patient to become attracted to them, so they take control of all those small body gestures and therapeutic techniques to only use them with patients who don't have the potential to become attracted to them or at the right time. And his small things that I took as such endearing, attractive factors about him were really just his therapeutic technique (sad to demean everything to that level, but it is meant in a genuine, healing way).
As for is she a good therapist? I really do not have any indication of how your therapy is. It sounds like she is not making any mistakes, but is probably unsure what to do, so instead of saying anything that may jeopardize your therapy, she has said nothing. Or perhaps it's not in her style to provoke you. She may be waiting for you to say more. I know that when I brought up issues with the relationship between me and my T, we would talk about it until the problem seem superficially solved. It was really up to me to bring it up. I would try and bring it up again. By now she should know what to do after discussing your therapy with her advisor. Unexperienced T's need to get their training somewhere. It sounds like your feelings towards your T have the potential to be very therapeutic considering your problems with females in the past (on the contrary to what other people have said, I think having a male T for me helped in that I had the chance to talk intimately about my feelings with a male which I hadn't before). However in the long run, if you want slow-going therapy, you can stay. If you want something that will be more efficient and productive, I'd go elsewhere.
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