Posted by Maria01 on December 9, 2007, at 10:00:11
In reply to Maybe counter resistance, posted by john79 on December 9, 2007, at 9:23:26
Therapists(especially those in training) sometimes find themselves unable or unwilling to help for whatever reason. It's all a matter of a "good fit" between client and therapist. Good hospital/academic/professional affiliations do not a good therapist make.
Trainess do not make a lot of money for the record. They will usually work for an hourly wage(depending on the assignment and the state in which they work). Once they are fully licensed, then they can accept insurance reimbursements and full fees. I would strongly suggest speaking with her again, and if the conversation goes nowhere, you do have the right to speak with her supervisor.
She is not the right therapist for you for whatever reason. There is a good chance it has nothing to to do with you, per se. Personally, I think it would be in your best interest to save yourself a lot of aggravation and to seek out a non-trainee male therapist so you can fully work on whatever it is you need to work on.
It isn't a client's responsibility to call out a therapist on matters such as counter-resistance. The client's job is to address their "stuff" in therapy. It is her supervisor's job to point out counter-resistance, etc. This is usually done during case conferences and/or in group supervision sessions.
It's your responsibility as a client to address whatever concerns that brought you to therapy with a therapist that is the best "fit" for you. This trainee, for whatever reason may not be the best person for you to work with. If her feelings toward you were personal(doubtful, but for the sake of argument)she still cannot discuss them with you; it would be a professional and ethical violation.
This trainee is not right for you for whatever reason. You owe it to yourself to move on to a more suitable therapist. After all, you are in therapy to address some concerns in your life, not to read and try to decipher whatever non-verbal messages she is conveying to you. The learning curve for therapists is steep. Find a more seasoned therapist.
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