Posted by Dinah on October 31, 2007, at 18:39:23
In reply to Re: It's unkindness that bothers me » Dinah, posted by RealMe on October 28, 2007, at 13:45:17
Well, I think I was thinking more about before you decide that the person is deliberately trying to undermine you on a repeated basis. Once you know they are, then it's perfectly reasonable not to care why.
I'm not sure I ever had anyone stab me in the back. Maybe because my back is usually to the wall. :) I've had people hurt me. I've found out that people I thought I was on good terms with really didn't like me much. I've heard that people have said things when I wasn't around that they wouldn't say to my face. Or at least not say as directly. But I consider that part of the human condition. We *do* hurt each other, whether we intend to or not. We *do* say angry things or hurtful things about people who aren't there. I don't think most people hurt others on purpose. It's more that they're angry or thoughtless. I don't consider it a betrayal really.
But then, I don't work in a particularly competitive environment, and what socializing I do doesn't involve networking or anything. So I just may not be in the way of it.
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