Posted by Dinah on October 28, 2007, at 11:40:04
In reply to Fake people irritate me, posted by happyflower on October 25, 2007, at 1:28:47
Putting up a front isn't that bad a thing to do. We all do it for one reason or another. We don't always want to show the world what we're thinking or feeling.
It's when the front masks acts of unkindness or cruelty that I mind it.
But I also mind acts of unkindness and cruelty that aren't masked.
If something really comes out of the blue, though, and is in no way expected or in character, might it be worthwhile to look deeper and see if anything else is going on? I don't condone anyone acting out unkindly of course, but sometimes there is something going on that causes it. If it's a pattern of behavior that's different. And sometimes it takes a while to see the difference.
I tend to invest myself slowly, I think, and expect to be hurt for a long time. So I can't say that I often get fooled by others in a way that really hurts, because it takes so long for me to let down my guard with them.
Of course, I probably also miss a lot of good stuff with my habitual cautiousness.
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