Posted by frida on September 29, 2007, at 15:32:48
In reply to Re: interesting to read.. to Frida, posted by Scentedgarden on September 28, 2007, at 18:18:27
Hi,
it confuses me too and it is very painful..from what my T says, I understand that she needs the adult me to help the wounded girl that seems to act out when I'm there... she says (or I understand she says) we've given her space...but there comes a moment when she needs the adult me in the room because it's difficult to help the little girl I seem to become that doesn't accept anything, doesn't say a word and is only scared.
I don't know..when she explains to me I understand, but it hurts...She says that we need to work together, she and the adult me to help that little girl. That if I'm all the time the little girl, then we can't process anything, we can't look at things, we can't try to understand and change things....
I guess in my case, my T has been really patient with me for years, but she needs the adult me to take control a little and not to let the little girl take me to a place of fear and silence...she needs the adult me to try harder to leave that place of pain. But still...it feels hard to do,
I haven't been able to explain to my T or to talk about this... I guess part of me just wishes I could be free to be that little girl, and just tell her the secrets and be comforted, without having to process or talk about things from the adult me.
That's another thing she says..when the adult me is not in the room...I get lost in the moments as if I were in the past or as if things were really happening or I were experiencing things from a little girl's view and it's too hard..I behave and i'm there as a little girl. But I guess that happens for a reason.
I just don't know...it's confusing...and painful...
is some of this what your T says to you?
Frida
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