Posted by JoniS on September 16, 2007, at 20:26:48
In reply to Re: Do you think it would help to know... » JoniS, posted by DAisym on September 14, 2007, at 0:36:54
"...I think you have to get clear about what it is you want to know...."
I don't know what it is I want to know. Maybe I want to feel like under different circumstances, he could be interested in me. Because I, like you believe that I would like him if I knew him outside of therapy. I guess I don't feel "good enough" - so would I feel "good enough" for him or someone with the qualities I see in him, to have similar feelings about me? I guess my T would have a come back that basically said - is that how you want to measure yourself, by how someone else feels about you?
It's just that since he answers so often with a question, or avoids alltogether, it's hard not to wander off and believe he really doesn't like me. Only one time that I can ever remember sis he tell me how he feels. He said "I care deeply and profoundly..."
It's odd that I cant just hold on to that, and that keep wanting to hear it again, or hear more, or something...
I think he wants me to value myself totally independent of what he thinks of me, so therefore he wont give me the answer I want to hear. I don't know.
OH, and I'm glad I'm not the only one who freaks when they see other patients.
thanks!
Joni
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