Posted by pegasus on September 14, 2007, at 12:16:19
In reply to Do you think it would help to know..., posted by JoniS on September 12, 2007, at 16:12:19
I've asked this question to my T both directly and (mostly) indirectly, many times. Sometimes it is really helpful and sometimes it is not. I'm not sure whether that depends on where I am with it, or what the answer is. I like when I get direct answers ("you are strong, brave, smart, I really like you" etc.). I hate it when I get indirect answers ("I've answered this questions many times. I think you know how I feel" etc.). But sometimes the indirect answers are good in the long run, if you know what I mean.
Sometimes I get the answer to the question of whether my T likes me when I'm really trying to ask another question. That's super frustrating. But I know it's because I do ask this one a lot also, and it's hard for me to clearly ask questions that are subtly - but importantly - different.
I think it's important to really explore the question, as well as to carefully consider the answer. And I think it's important to try to find your own answer first, so that you can remember what it was after you have your T's answer. There may be more truth to what you feel inside you than to the way you interpret your T's actual words. Does that make sense?
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