Posted by Dinah on August 29, 2007, at 20:30:53
In reply to are handshakes goodbye wih t acceptable?, posted by widget on August 29, 2007, at 1:52:31
I think different therapists have different boundaries and different comfort zones. It's interesting to see what different therapists find acceptable, but it doesn't change what *our* therapists are comfortable with.
I suspect each and every one of us hears things that makes us wish this or that boundary wasn't as tight with our own therapist. My therapist wouldn't call me unless I asked him to. Even if he knew I was upset. But he's fine with handshakes or even hugs. I think I'm glad about that since I might obsess about it if it weren't allowed, but since it is, it's no big deal.
I know this isn't always helpful, but whenever I run into a boundary in any relationship, I think to myself that ok, they won't give me this, but they do give me that and the other. I sort of remind myself that different people can give different things. I know that's not always helpful.
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