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are handshakes goodbye wih t acceptable?

Posted by widget on August 29, 2007, at 1:52:31

My therapist is a stickler for boundary rules. He knows of my intense feeling for him and is vigilant about enforcing the "rules". He once mentioned that this therapy enterprise is different from most social interactions and there is no touching, questionting if he had even shaken my hand upon first meeting me. Therefore, there is NO physical contact at all. So, the idea of touching him on the arm (just to feel his skin, his realness) becomes a focus for me. If only....Is it reasonable to ask him for this? Am I making a mountain out of a molehill?

At the end of each session, I feel a sense of non-closure that I truly believe a handshake (casual) would ease, offering a seal and official tempoary end to the intimate encounter. I worry that he is so skiddish about the physical contact because of my admittedly erotic feelings toward him. However, this "all hand off" is almost making it more of an issue than it deserves to be. I sometimes feel like a leper with whom he must avoid psychicl contact or pay a very dear cost. If I could just make contact, I think I would feel peace and some acceptance. Is this too much to ask him? I'd really like some feedback as this haunts me every session from the begininng on. Is he scared of me? Is he afraid of giving me the wrong message? And, if he does by such an innocuous means, then that should be looked at. Please, I'm not so scary. Advice please?




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