Posted by arora on August 23, 2007, at 16:10:52
In reply to i think one of my inner kids..**TRIGGER**, posted by B2chica on August 23, 2007, at 11:40:35
B2chica-
I don't know what advice to give you- so afraid I might make it worse, but just wanted to let you know I'm supporting you, too. I understand- but it's not so easy to articulate.My inner kid gets so angry too- maybe it's just that they still respond to situations like children... I think of animals who will chew their own legs off to escape a trap. They respond instinctively- just want to get away from the pain. Lash out at whoever is around- and you are the closest to her. She doesn't mean it personally- doesn't really mean to hurt you.
Maybe, (and I'm saying this because I've worked with injured animals in the past on the farm where I grew up) is tell yourself that yeah, she's gonna lash out at you like a hurt dog or cat that you are trying to help- but you know you're ultimately helping her to heal and get better. When she screams she hates you and wants to kill you- tell her you know that- but you still love her... and you won't LET her hurt you. That makes her feel safe. to know she can say those hurtful things, but you still won't hate her.
Does this make any sense? I'm probably waffling- I'm tryin to send you support as best I can.
(((hugs))) to you and her both.
arora
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