Posted by Tamar on August 13, 2007, at 9:03:38
In reply to Re: ***** Long, tedious and triggery ***** » Tamar, posted by twinleaf on August 12, 2007, at 22:43:49
> This sounds so frustrating! I think a good relationship with a therapist- one that doesn't change, and does not ever cause pain, is essential for us to feel safe, respected, cared for and able to deall with the things which are important to us. If we have to worry about the relationship itself so much of the time, there isn't too much time left to deal with the issues we would like to- and, really, only we, as patients or clients, really know what those are.
Yes, and he acknowledges all of this.He apologizes, and he recognizes the need for stability. He just can't seem to provide it...
> This sounds hard, because when he's really with you, things go well. But there do sound like a lot of difficult, painful times. I guess I have to ask: would another therapist be better for you?
That's a hard question. I've been through so much with this therapist and there are things he understands that most people probably wouldn't. And I've looked into other therapists in the area and the only one that appealed to me turned out to be my friend's therapist, so I decided I wouldn't go there, in case it caused problems with my friend.
Like so many people in difficult relationships, I want him to start doing things right instead of my having to leave.
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