Posted by Dinah on July 24, 2007, at 16:58:39
In reply to Re: If the above post is unclear, and sorry its LO » Dinah, posted by muffled on July 24, 2007, at 14:02:36
Sometimes he does. The other day he phrased something in a way that made me see something in a whole new way, and pretty much did away with an issue I've been struggling with for years (and it was sex, so no easy issue). Not bad for one session.
And I guess in a subtle way he does that all the time. He rephrases what I say with subtle differences so that in time, I come to see them differently. It's not an ah-hah type thing. More that I'll find myself saying something, and realize that I see it the way I see it because I've picked it up from him over a long period of time.
Definitely not ah-hah. More of a chuckle as I realize that something I would have rejected outright if he'd presented it as a change I needed to make got subtly incorporated into the way I think.
I think... I think for me that that's a good way of going about it. To some extent, he forces me to do the work, with him there to very subtly guide my conclusions, or to curb me if I go far astray.
It's not like in the movies, that's for sure. A huge insight, a rush of tears, and all fixed.
But I was saying to him today that I think I'm gaining some wisdom and clarity (in some areas of my life at least) that seem to have come on all at once, but that no doubt have been building up for some time.
I'm not sure I like that. I've lost something to gain that.
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