Posted by Racer on July 15, 2007, at 15:05:15
In reply to Can't feel any lower*trigger*, posted by slugdoo on July 15, 2007, at 12:53:25
Well, I do think that TherapyGirl has said it better than I can, but since the topic is people not responding, I guess I'll say it my way, too...
Sometimes when I post about my issues here, I am disappointed by the (lack of) response. I have often felt as though I answer people, offer up what I interpret as support, or advice, or just acknowledgement, and then when I need something -- there's not a lot coming back to me. You know what I've come to conclude, though? When I am feeling as though I need something, I may not see what is actually offered to me. I may need more than anyone could offer, and so I don't feel satisfied by what is offered. Does that make sense?
I've also concluded, though, that often it's kinda like when Mommy cries? Sometimes, if you're someone who usually offers support and comfort, when you ask for it -- a lot of other people just don't know how to react.
I've been at Babble since the start, and there are a couple of trends about this topic -- a lot of people complain that they don't get enough of a response from others. And about an equal number of people complain that they want "helpful" responses, not just "Oh, I hear you" responses. That makes it harder for some of us to decide to answer some posts that maybe we would like to answer. Maybe I don't have anything helpful to say, but I really want to say, "you sound so hurt, I really wish I had something to say that could help." Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't -- it depends on how recently I've read the "don't just write to write, only write if you have something useful to offer" posts.
At any rate, over the past decade, I've found a lot of good at Babble. Sure, I don't always get my needs met all the time, but they're certainly met more often than not. I hope you find the same trend for yourself.
poster:Racer
thread:769687
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20070714/msgs/769728.html