Posted by kerria on July 8, 2007, at 21:52:41
In reply to Sudden termination initiated by therapist, posted by Maria01 on July 4, 2007, at 19:00:50
Hi Maria,
Twice i was terminated by a T without any warning. It was a nightmare. i felt so rejected for weeks. i'm so sorry that you're going through this now. It's so painful because the rejection feels so personal.
It was really hard to get over. i did what you're doing- i came here to talk about it. i cried a lot. It was a very sad time- i felt completely alone. No explaination was given to me about why i was terminated the second time. i have DID and it was so hard to find a T. This was the first and only T that i ever shared the map of my system with- he had given it for 'homework.' i haven't written the names of parts down since for any T. To share all this with a T to have him terminate me on the next session was devastating.
He said he was terminating me because i was late.The first time i thought everything was going great and i received a letter from him stating that" he is not my therapist." and copies were sent to my psychiatrist and to my previous therapist (that i had left). i felt so so bad. i had only gone back to talk to T1 to explain that i had found another therapist and to say goodbye. He was my T for five years- it was too hard to just stop seeing him without one closing session. Why would that cause the new T to terminate me? It was so shocking that the new T was so heartless to send the letter like that without even talking to me. i was so upset that i sent it back to him. i have no idea why he was so mean to me.
Why, How can therapists be so cruel ? Can't they imagine how a client feels at all? Why would they put us through this? i still can't understand. i guess it takes all kinds of people to make a world. For a T to be so heartless - there is no excuse. Most of us have very bad self images and it's hard enough to go t. To be terminated without a reason is too hard to take.
Maria, i'm so sorry that you 're hurting so much now. i hope that you find a good T soon.
Take care,
kerria
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